Okay, before I officially get kicked out of the wedding industry for uttering such blasphemous words as saying I don’t care about my wedding (I’m waiting for lightning to strike me as we speak!), let me tell you what I mean.
Usually, here’s how it goes
A wedding day – when you get right down to it – is just one day.
It has the same 24 hours in it as any other day, but those hours are often fraught with chaos (to put it mildly).
People are running around getting hair and makeup done, ensuring all the suits and shoes are ready to be worn, ties are straight, flower girl is smiling, programs are out, aisle decorations are perfect and the bride hopes to move everyone to tears at the mere sight of her floating down the aisle towards her knight in shining armour. From there it’s a whirlwind of pictures, toasts, dancing, food and cake; and all too soon, the bride and groom are collapsing on the bed of the hotel room utterly exhausted and having a hard time remembering details from their wedding.
When?
When did the wedding day become a competition to see which bride could out-Pinterest the next one? When did table centerpieces become a bigger deal than the guests sitting around said table? And when did the focus of the wedding day shift from the joining of two souls and families to who can put on the best party?
Why I Don’t Care About My Wedding
I don’t care about my wedding because it’s just one day.
It’s going to be wonderful, and it’s going to be beautiful, and I want everyone to have a great time (us included!).
But at the end of the day, it’s about Eric and I getting married.
If the cake falls over, or the flowers don’t turn out perfect, or my dress gets dirty, or the timeline doesn’t go exactly as it should… it’s not the end of the world.
Eric and I agreed a long time ago that the wedding wasn’t that important to us.
Having us joined as man and wife, in front of God and our families, that was the important part.
So as long as that happens, everything else is (quite literally) icing on the cake.
So by all means, have that lavish wedding, surrounded by those closest to you, dance your butt off and drink champagne all night… but don’t forget about the REAL reason for that special day.
Because at the end of everything, it will just be one day.
Your marriage is for the rest of your life, and that’s gonna need a heck of a lot more work than planning a hundred weddings! So what’s more important to focus on?
Love What You See? Want to Chat About YOUR Wedding?!
If you’ve finished looking at this blog on why I don’t care about my wedding and are thinking to yourself – I want you to come photograph my wedding! Awesome!!! We would LOVE to create a custom wedding package for you and the ones you love! Feel free to message me by hitting the { CONTACT ME } button or by giving me a call at 757-749-5350. I can’t wait to create some magic for you!
You are SO right, Judith!!! I had this same attitude, and I now look back on the wedding we threw together in 48 hours as one of the best days of my life. We were 100% focused on the aftermath of that day, not the day itself, and we’ve never regretted not having the big fairytale wedding. Plus, we were able to redirect that money into our honeymoon fund and travelling is a much better way of celebrating your love than a big fancy party!
That being said, I know you will be one (to use your own word!) kick-awesome bride and I wish you so much love and happiness on your wedding day and all the days that follow.
Amen to that Amy!!! Here’s hoping to an awesome day, but an even better marriage! <3
Ah! You nailed it!
At first, I was so disappointed that James and I didn’t have that big wedding that I had been dreaming of since I was a little girl. Up until the big day (which was only two weeks away from when we agreed to marry, I second guessed myself, cried, you name it. However, what you wrote is ultimately why today I am perfectly happy with James and I eloping! The most important people to us were there, we had each other, and everything else just sort of fell into place (with the help of some awesome family friends). I cannot tell you how many people have told me that, “They wish they did it the way we did!”
A. it costs so much less
B. it was actually ENJOYABLE (no too planned or stressful)
C. it was what the day was meant to be about! Love!
So happy for you! Enjoy that special day, no matter WHAT happens! We love you guys! 😀
So true!
It’s just a day … a very special day. But just a day.
I’m amazed at how much import somes folks put on their wedding day.
Thankfully, the couples whose wedding I photograph recognize that in the long run it’s about sharing their commitment, and sharing it with friends and family.
Thanks so much for sharing dear!